Some strange questions surfacing that I have a hard time putting my finger on regarding my sister and my dad. My sister is so afraid that my dad will meet some woman who will take their house. My dad would never kick his kids out - he could ONLY do it if there was some really evil woman who talked him into it. But I feel like my sister holds my father back in some way I can't put my finger on. In the meantime, my dad is too sick - old age stuff mostly - to do much of anything and my sister is trapped in the house caring for an old man because she is too fearful (he says it is because they are too poor) to bring in any help. weird situation. My sister has cared for my parents throughout long illnesses for over five years and could legally have the house declared hers through a state program that gives caregivers their homes - sounds nutty but I know it's true - not sure if it is the right thing to do. I would rather have the home be in a trust of some sort that would legalize my dad's right to live there forever. Sister swears that she's been told by lawyers that any trust can be broken by the dad anytime. See he does get a little nutty sometimes, wanting to invest all the family money in make rich quick schemes, is NOT competent to survive on his own and knows it, can remember details of his life about half the time, the other half he can be quite smart and present in the moment. There is another dependent sibling that my sister cares for in the house, and to have the house go to an unscrupulous new wife would be immoral and actually my mother feared that when she was alive. We just never knew how to prevent it.
Let's hope that this does not happen to these diligent caregivers on this site.
Being of sound mind at this stage, I still prefer a Revocble Living Trust.
The reason that I suggested a Revocable Living Trust written up for persons UNDER age 70, is that people change their minds.\\ Once the money, assets, etc. are put in a Trust, it's no longer yours. It belongs to the Trust, and of course, the Trustee.
I don't plan to turn over my money to a Trust until I'm 79 or 80.
Gabriel? What do you think?
In your case, I do not see how you can do anything without the help of an Elder Law Attorney to assist you. I do not see a quick fix that you can simple find some forms, fill out and file on your own. It is more complicated than that.
Re-read what Attorney Heiser said to you. The trust MUST BE "IRREVOCABLE" not REVOCABLE. You need to get this done as soon as possible. I do not know what could be done as far as the sister getting the house through some program, but I would continue to check out every angle!
God Bless You All!
Looking for an elder care lawyer? Try your church or temple, if you have one. I'd feel more comfortable going to a lawyer that had been recommended by someone I trust, like a priest, than to someone I just picked off an eldercare list froman agency. This is especially true if your church has an elder ministry, which many do.
ThereIsNoTry: We all fear the possibility that our elderly parent, now widowed/divorced will meet someone who "takes" his assets. All the adult children should tell him this. A friend of mine in TN remarried after fifty years of marriage to his first wife. The second wife had to sign a disclaimer renouncing
the right to his assets. She was given a very generous life insurance policy, and that's all....no house, no cars, no IRA's, no CD's, and certainly no checking nor savings. Today, the woman is living well in her own home and on good terms with her former husband's children.
If father's - would depend if he is competent to sign and is willing to sign docs giving title to house to trust.
The trust could be done under a "special needs" trust - wording it so that dependent sister is to stay there for her life, father for his life and caregiver to get house after they are gone (can be worded so that caregiver gets house only if remains caregiver - that way if caregiver no longer wants to act in this capacity, someone else can be named.
Would move quickly - if Dad can still sign will be much easier to accomplish before he is no longer capable.