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Nothing normal about it. But it’s amazing how low the bar is for being considered competent and therefore able to make ones own decisions. Talk to his doctor and the hospital social worker, they may not talk back if there’s no POA or HIPPA clearance, but they can just listen and be fully informed on his situation. When you’ve done that, you’ve done all you should and can for now. Events will happen that will force change, it’s just not fund waiting on it.
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Nope. Not normal behavior IF he hasn't been this way his whole life.

Do you have power of attorney or are you on HIPAA forms so that you can talk to the social worker/discharge planner at the hospital?

Maybe he is telling them that you will care for him, and that's why they are discharging him.

Or maybe he is competent to make his own bad choices and there's nothing you can do.

I think it's woth a call to the hospital to tell them that you work full time and will not be providing care for him. Period. End of story. It might change their discharge plans. Or not.

In any event, take a giant step back and allow him to be "independent". The sooner you stop enabling the charade, the sooner he will get help.
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MyAgingFather Jul 2021
Thank you. I've continuously done that. I try to keep my distance unless I absolutely necessary and need to communicate with him because he's very combative. I've talked to the hospital, and social workers, many times. He'll send a nurse to his home several times a week but he'll end up firing them. It goes on and on and never ends.
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