My mother has dementia, and I am unable to move to take care of her. (She is in DC, I am in Louisiana). My Aunt offered to move in with her, and take care of her until I am able to get to DC. Can the government provide a stipend to pay my Aunt? I know the government pays foster parents for taking care of foster kids. Hopefully someone can assist me with an answer. Thank you.
Or, you could pay your aunt to care for your mom. If your aunt moves in with her, your aunt would no longer have any housing expenses (utilities, rent/mortgage & taxes). This is a form of payment in itself. Additionally, you could (assuming that you are in control of your mom's finances) give your aunt a stipend from your mom's income. Living as roomates would make their expenses minimal and maybe free up some of your mom's income to compensate your aunt.
Government programs are for impoverished people (like the foster kids you mentioned). If that describes your mom, then she could apply for Medicaid which would pay for her nursing care.
I needed a durable power of attorney document for the state she was in, and the state we moved her to. While on the first visit I collected all the legal documents that I could, like will, healthcare directives, deed, car title, insurance papers, bank, social security, pension/retirement, medical, everything I could sneak off with because she was adamant she did not need help. Between visit 1 & 2, I made a plan to move her. I also probably spent too long in denial about what had to come next.
I got truck & moving service quotes, found a place for her to live, and scheduled time off to do it. We did not have an estate sale. It either went with us on the truck OR it was donated. I didn't have enough time off to plan & hold a sale.
Then we drove her back, and began the MN side of the plan. New doctors, new schedule, getting a state ID, donating her car, putting her belongings into storage.
Getting her installed in her new senior housing place.
It sounds easy but it was a lot of steps, and I did one step at a time. This website is FULL of resources to get you there.
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