My Mother is in a Nursing Home. So, here we are two years on. My mother has the following: Vascular Dementia with Alz.; personality disturbance; chronic congestive heart failure with acute congestive heart failure; neuropathy; Graves disease; glaucoma; gait disturbance; age related cataract; audio hallucinations. I had obtained POA; HC Proxy; Full Guardianship. My mother eloped out of the facility with a friend last fall by signing a false name to the sign-out sheet. Luckily, she came back. The nursing home placed a wander-guard on her walker. So now, she is calling the Mass. State Nursing Home Ombudsman every week saying that a) she doesn't have dementia anymore b) wants her guardianship restrictions reduced. I had a meeting with the director of nursing, the unit nurse, the facility manager, the social worker and the Mass Ombudsman. They attacked me as if the guardianship restrictions were my "fault". They want to lift my mother's restrictions so she can go to the courtyard (not monitored) and walk the facility by herself. The director of nursing pulled me aside after the meeting and said: "you are her guardian. You do what you feel is correct. Your mother constantly comes up to me and says 'I'm leaving' So, even if you lift some restrictions, I'm going to monitor her from afar." I'm concerned that this pushing will never stop and my mother will paint herself into a financial corner again, become very ill, and then cause extreme emotional duress for my family and me. I told the nursing home that I will take this under advisement. My mother is threatening me with an attorney as well. Thought?
So, are there any exits that mom could get out of if she was allowed courtyard access? Or if she could walk around the facility on her own?
In your shoes, if my mom threatened to sue me, I would resign my guardianship and allow the state to take over.