So update we got a placement and she will be moved sometime next week. They are still trying to regulate her BP and once that happens they will hopefully have her moved to the SNF. We really haven’t heard much from and were to the hospital but since they have her on Ativan she just seems totally out of it. The case worker is suppose to be in touch as to what if anything we need to send to the SNF so waiting to hear back on that but also would seeing if and when we should visit her. We do not want her to feel like we totally abandoned her although I am sure I’m her mind she feels that way.
You can also ask to meet the discharge planner who will handle the transfer, and professionally make it clear that you need to be notified when the transfer has been determined. Staff sometimes don't provide enough lead time for transfers, especially when they're extremely busy (such as during the Covid months).
In my experience, it's best to be at the SNF or rehab facility when the transfer is made, as it can be very confusing to the patient.
It's the hospital's responsibility (discharge planner), though, to provide the requisite medical information. I also always asked to review this as oftentimes inappropriate meds were included as being necessary. First thing I did was challenge any psychotropic drugs; Dad never needed them and I wasn't going to allow him to be drugged up.
You will have to meet with the SNF admins, review (and I mean REVIEW entirely) all the intake documents. That raises another issue; has your mother executed any powers of attorney giving you authority to sign for her? If not, then she should sign for herself - it's a financial liability issue.
What you can do is get together a wardrobe for her, pack and be ready to take it when Mom is transferred. I made a checklist for myself as we dealt with so many rehab adventures.
As to visiting, I would go anyway for personal observation of your mother's status. I would also bring and leave get well or thinking of you (as may be appropriate) cards to leave for her so she knows she's not alone.