I'm a 66-year-old male. While the caregiver was away I changed my bedridden mothers (87) poopy/runny diaper. It was all over including her front privates. I was wigged out and felt really uncomfortable. She was as well and almost crying telling me she was sorry I was having to change her. I'll just be short and to the point. I never want to change her diaper again. Am I wrong?
Don't look for reasons to be The Bad Son, ok? Hire more in home caregivers or think about placement now for mother. That doesn't make you a Bad Son either. We all have our limitations and we SHOULD!
I would NEVER want my son to have to change my diaper if and when the day comes, and I've made it perfectly clear to both my son and daughter that when that day comes I want to be placed in some type of facility where my care will be on the facility and not on my children.
I find in my long experience as an in-home caregiver that incontinence was a top reason for why families placed a senior LO.
No one wants to put someone in a nursing home. Sometimes it's the only way.
The fact that at the age of 66 you still use the term "poopy" is petty ridiculous.
No, you should not be changing your mother's diapers, but unless she has 24 hour caregivers or is in a nursing home you may have to. That's part of the price family has to pay when they keep an incontinent, diaper-dependent elder at home.
I was an in-home caregiver for 25 years. I have wiped more ancient can and could probably make a mountain to rival Everest with the countless adult diapers and pull-ups I've changed over the years.
It never gets less nasty no matter how many you've changed.
Nice the aides wait until they're outside the room to discuss this.
Can you get a caregiver to assist?
It is not for anyone. No one enjoys wiping a$$ or changing diapers.
It's understandable when families place a LO over it though. Especially when the person is living in their house. Families should not be expected to have a home that smells like crap and pee all the time.
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