I am willing but that also means I have to stop my full time job. If i do this, can i ask help, money wise to the gouvernement, do they have anything that helps caregiver like me. and this is in quebec, what should i do, she is the beginner stage years ago but i see changes in her, Family culture for us we do not put our parents in homes.
Good luck. Many of us have gone through what you are going through. Something to remember is that you are as important as your mother, so you need to make sure you are taken care of financially. This may mean keeping your job and finding other resources to take care of your mother when you aren't there.
I just want to wish you luck.
In the meantime, you might want to explore the Alzheimer's Association website: http://www.alz.org/. It doesn't show any chapters in Canada, but the information might be of help to you in providing background information.
I would also suggest that you become acquainted with the several stages of AD so that you can recognize them as they occur and have some idea how to address them. In the later stages, violent behavior can occur, and that's a real challenge to manage at home.
And I'm guessing also that you speak French (gouvernement - French pronunciation if I remember my French courses correctly)?
It's a nice thought that "we do not put our parents in homes", but it's a thought that comes from a time when all women stayed home and tended the children, the house and the elders. My mother cared for her mom at home; she did not work outside the home and my dad's salary was sufficient. I work and have my own mortgage; leaving my job to care for my mother in my very small apartment is not a possibility.
Think carefully about your options here.
Firstly do not give up your job. At 58 it would be hard to find another job. Your mother could live another ten years and, unless you have funds of your own, you will have no income. However many years your mother may or may not live, by the time she passes you have no hope of being employed.
How advanced is your mother's Alzheimers and does she have any other health issues? Along with dementia, my mother had parkinsons and a history of strokes. Depending on how quickly her health issues worsen, there will come a time when caring for her alone 24/7 is impossible.
I gave up everything to care for my mother. After four years she had deteriorated to the point that she could not be left alone, refused to use her walker in the house and was always falling and ending up in the ER. After a particularly nasty fall in the middle of the night she spent a month in hospital and then entered a lovely nursing home where she remained for 3 years until she passed.
I believe every case is different and no-one knows how things will go and how quickly there will be deterioration to the point that someone needs skilled nursing care 24/7. I would seriously consider various "what if" scenarios before making any decisions. Good luck.