Dad left us 2 yrs ago because of dementia. Dad had been in and out of the hospital three times in six weeks and declined rapidly. He stopped eating and drinking and started pocketing food. His whole attitude changed following each successive hospital stay of 4-5 days. They tested everything and couldn't figure out why he was spiking 102+ fevers. Each time he went back to the nursing home he'd be fine for a few days--and then would spike fevers again. We're sorry he is gone--but relieved that he is out of pain and anguish and frustration.
My sympathies on your loss. It is a blessing when the suffering is over.
terrible situation. My parents had been married for 70 years but my dad is now failing, too. It is a terrible to watch people that were so capable become totally incompetent and no longer capable of even accomplishing the smallest tasks.
It is draining to be the person that must accomplish all of those big and small tasks. When people ask me about my feelings over her death - I simply respond I miss my mom and I had been missing her for a long time before her death.
I must say that I'm always quite taken aback when I hear that people are offering their opinions on how one is to grieve or feel. That truly is one situation where you don't know what you'd do until you're there, and everyone deals with it in their own unique way.