Really? I can only accept so much, but hate to hurt feelings! Example, taking a cell phone call right in the middle of a conversation and not thinking nothing of those around you in close proximity who are either talking or watching TV or whatever. I personally think it is quite rude and for me, no age in life gives you a "get out of being rude card".
How is your Mom's cognition? Could you take her aside and gently explain what the protocol is with these new-fangled phones?
I tend to give older people a pass on certain things. Maybe that is wrong. If they are at the point of needing caregiving that is. I mean they have so much that they are losing- independence, driving, sometimes hearing and the privacy of wiping their own behinds --I just , well, want to give them a few things . As mentioned in your last post about phone issues.
BUT- I will say there is no excuse for using your cereal spoon for the jam!---(DAD!) bleh. so gross! (note to self ---pack my own jam for trip to parents house on Monday) But he is the caregiver not the caregivee. No pass!! (and he did this my whole life)