I am screening various Memory Care facilities for my Mom with vascular dementia and have heard horror stories of patients wandering into other patients rooms at any hour of the night, while they are sleeping. What is the typical/expected way to prevent this? My Mom would never sleep again if this happened to her.
We started to label her framed pictures, slippers, and other items that could easily be transported to other rooms. If they came back, it was usually the family who noticed them and returned them to grandmas room.
my husbands grandfather was a very social guy who would visit anybody and everybody to chit chat. The memory care facility medicated/sedated him to the point where he could not get up. My mother in law took note of the drugging and moved him to another facility.
Guess it all depends on the facility, how they handle it, and if others complain about it.
Keep in mind that in a memory care unit, there are lots of confused people and many residents prefer to leave their doors open to the hallway. So, sometimes, entry is made in error. It may not be a persistent wanderer, could be someone who was close to the last resident who lived there and is entering on 'auto-pilot'.
As you shop for a community, ask to meet the director of memory care and have a short list of questions. Her/his responses will help you determine if you're comfortable with moving your mom in.
Put something distinctive on your mom's door that will be immediately visible. That will help neighbors realize that it's not theirs (nor the previous resident's) apartment.
Set up a web page under a revised version of LO name, or an in law, and post asking about specific facilities. Ask specifics about staffing. All beds should have alarms if someone gets up. How quickly are they really answered. Do the math! They have X number of patients. Staff will be busy with medical care, bedtime preparations, bathroom trips for Y amount of time. If half the patients wonder twice a night, is there enough staff to attend to Y plus X number of wandering patients in a timely manner.
Is there a second motion sensor at the entry door? Are you allowed to install a Ring or other real time monitor, motion activated, at the entry to your LO room. If it only picks up people, including staff entering or leaving, than it is NOT a HIPPA violation. If they vigerously object, that is a red flag!
Placing my Mom in a care home was a responsibility that terrified me because I would no longer be there to protect or directly manage her care.
it becomes clear very quickly what a care facility’s strengths and weaknesses are.
Night wandering is common with dementia.
Any facility that that cares for people with dementia should have the knowledge, skills and professionalism for monitoring and working with these behaviors.
Ask the facilities you interview how how they manage this. Their answers should reassure you. And, if they do not - follow your intuition and move the facility down or off your list.
I think that in any working relationship with a care home, communication is crucial. Choose a facility that you are comfortable communicating with and where the staff is responsive to your concerns - especially when things don’t go well.
Best of of luck to you. And, remember to take care of yourself too.
The door will lock when they leave or escorted from the room and will be locked at night.
It's helpful to keep people out and stop wandering your love one from wandering.
Yes, if she were fully aware of "who she is, where she" is then yes she would be freaked out but she is not fully aware of "who she is, where she is" and her surroundings. If she were you would not be looking for Memory Care facilities.
I think what I am trying to say is you are thinking with a clear mind and your Mom is in a different world.
She will get used to a lot of things. Noises at night, staff may walk in to check on her, the morning routine all these will become "normal" to her.
And at some point there is a possibility that she may be the one doing the wandering at night. (unless of course your Mom is not mobile)
Lot of facilities use a banner or strap across the doorway that has a Stop Sign on it. It is attached with Velcro so can come off easily. It seemed to really work for most wandering.
Some memory care units have 4 beds in one room with only privacy curtains between them. There is not much you can do about that.
Usually by that stage in their dementia only redirection will work.
Nothing about dementia is easy.
It is impossible to lock the doors of patient rooms to prevent this as this would be a safety/fire hazard issue. A confused patient can not unlock a door. Maybe you could ask if they could put a "baby gate" in the doorway of your mother's room. However, they have to comply with fire codes and that may not be possible and it may be considered a "restraint" or a tripping hazard.
Most places have cameras in hallways and staff do hourly checks. "Wandering", unfortunately, is something that has to be dealt with if you are going to place your loved one in memory care. As you can see, there is no "prevention".
At some point YOUR mom may be the one who's going into other rooms. We all have to take it in stride. This is typical behavior of dementia patients.
I went to visit my LO one time in MC and there was a lady, who was not her roommate lying on her bed asleep in the day time. My LO didn't mind at all. She saw her and was able to talk about it, but, it didn't bother her at all. I went and told a staff member and they got her up and out. She just got confused. If someone had been in the bed, she'd likely have moved on, realizing it was taken.
I wonder why they can't install Dutch doors that the staff can open easily but the patients cannot?
There are call buttons in every room. There are aides and nurses in the hallways 24/7 keeping an eye on their patients. Mom can always call out as well if she’s uncomfortable.