I come to this site asking for help. My dad is in a rehab. He is 2 hours away from me. I don't have the capability physically to get down there. I am disabled and walking is an issue. He is married and I don't get along with his wife. We had a falling out. Anyway she is the only one that is allowed to know anything about him or advocate for him. I tried finding out info. They will not give it to me because I am not on the list. She refuses to put me on list and wants me to come and visit. I am trying to get a way down there but in the meantime I can't find anything out about my dad. What right as a daughter do I have?
The only thing you can do is try to make amends with your step-mother. You can start by asking her how she is doing as she probably quite physically and emotionally exhausted. Then you can ask her how is your Dad doing. It's worth a try, but I realize it won't be easy.