I didn't know what to do so I got my dad. Then mom thought he was trying to kill her. Then the imaginary people were trying to kill her. This was the first episode like this. I stay Monday and Tuesday nights at my parents house because the rehab for the broken hip didn't want to release her to just my dad, so we have someone there all of the time. She finally sat in the chair for awhile. And when she talked about the imaginary dogs instead of someone killing her I asked if she wanted to go to bed. We went straight to bed in the t-shirt she was wearing before anything else could happen. I can't deal with this
At the hospital I would speak to a social worker about placement . This is too much to handle at home .
Mom will be likely to have these episodes on and off if she gets UTI’s. And if it turns out it’s not a UTI , then it’s the dementia advancing which also is now too much to handle at home .
Either way , Don’t allow the social worker to talk Dad into bringing her home , you say it’s an “ unsafe discharge “.
Sorry to say but a broken hip often causes a significant decline in someone with dementia, that they do not bounce back from .
The fact that rehab didn’t want to send Mom home without someone there at all times along with Dad is very telling.
You mentioned your mom has a broken hip. So I suspect your mom recently had anesthesia, that can make dementia worse.
Also sence this is new , check and make sure she doesn't have a UTI. Peoples dementia can get a lot worse if she has a UTI.
Best of luck
You are doing all you can!
Going through this with my mom. We are fixing one issue when another is is starting. It seems to never end.
That sounds like what is starting to happen with your mom. 🙏
Once in the ER make sure the staff knows she is an unsafe discharge -- do not take her back home for any reason because she needs more care now than anyone can give her. Make sure your Dad doesn't go get her, either. She may need to go into the psych ward to see if medications will help calm her. That's what they had to do with my cousin, with early onset ALZ... she wouldn't go to Urgent Care or with the EMS so her son had to pick her up bodily and take her, and she fought him the entire way. She did have a UTI which got treated, but they also kept her in the psych wing until she would comply with taking meds for her paranoia and agitation.
Are you her PoA? If so, bring the paperwork. If she doesn't have an assigned PoA then at the hospital ask to talk to a social worker to see if she can be transitioned directly into a facility. Do not believe them if they pressure you to take her home and "promise" to help you find help once there. This is a bold-faced lie they tell to get people discharged.
I'm so sorry you're going through this incredibly distressing situation!
Unfortunately my aunt who helps on Wednesday night has a swollen disc in her back and is not going to be able to help for awhile. I don't know how long that takes to heal, so I am back to 3 nights a week instead of 2 unless someone can find more help.
So very happy that the doctor gave her something that is working.
Did the doctor give her anything for the hallucinations? Or is he waiting to see if a UTI is causing it? I saw nothing about Mom having Dementia just the cancer. Chemo does give people "brain fog". Also, people suffer from Hospital delirium too. I think if was 3 weeks in Rehab, I would have some delirium too. I guess the doctor checked for pneumonia too?
If you have PTO time or vacation you may want to take off a few days. No sleep and no food make for a lousy employee.
But I agree it could be a number of factors causing this . Sounds like that last round of chemo made her very frail , which is not uncommon in causing the beginning of the final decline .
Honestly, it sounds like a total step down due to multiple factors and needs placement .
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