The police didn't take him to jail because I told them his health was real bad and I lied and said he just had a stroke. He did but that was quite a while back. Now I sit here and think well he can get out of my house now. Find someone else to see to him. I slapped him and when he slapped me back I went into a wall and hit the floor with my bad hip. Now I'm hurting emotionally and physically.
If no UTI, he needs an involuntary psychiatric hold so they can trial meds to calm him down.
Christine, go to http://dvis.org where you will find a helpline number for an organisation based in Tulsa that can help you AND your husband together. DVIS stands for Domestic Violence Intervention Services, and the both of you need their help.
How did you expect him to react when you slapped him?
What caused you to start the
physical violence?
I guess u lied because you gave the first "slap".
Next time, if u feel threatened leave and call the police and don't lie.
"Now I sit here and think well he can get out of my house now."
Not a legal or fair option.
Drop by your nearest senior center today. They will put you in touch with social services, referrals, and Area Council on Aging to help you get a plan.
Take care of yourself!
If the OP does not return to thank you from across the pond, allow me.
Thanks!
Sorry you are hurting emotionally and physically. The care of your husband's illness has become too much for you. There is no shame in that.
If it is not too late, placing him (maybe in assisted living?) might allow the two of you to remain together if you go too. If not, it falls to you to arrange for his care elsewhere.
The problem lies with the fact that in domestic abuse, you might get blamed and charged for abuse, a felony. And here you thought lying to keep him home was doing him a favor?
Police are extra cautious in domestic abuse, because, (in an example) the wife will call for help and actually attack the police to defend her abusive husband! It is a volatile and sick scenario. It is ongoing, often a long term dysfunctional relationship that escalates and becomes more dangerous - to you both.
Now that you are over the shock of not feeling supported, I urge you to take care of this situation because you can.
In the meantime, when things start to escalate, exit out the nearest door and stay
outside, breathing deeply. Do not go back in to fight. Drop the subject, get something to eat.
Many hugs! A difficult and scary situation to be sure.
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