I want the doctors to sign letters saying my LO is incapacitated because she has beginning stages of dementia and mental illness, and she uses a can andcwalker, she doesn't drive, and she keeps shopping online, or gets a friend to visit once a month for 3 to 4 days and nights, will take her shopping, and now she is trying to buy a dog from the friend, and she really can't take care of it, and I will be stuck with the care. I was told that I needed to freeze the accounts, or make it to where she can't sign checks without me, but for my DPOA to be legal, she needs to be incapacitated. I don't know if this is true or not?
Incapacitated generally has nothing to do with physical disabilities and is a judgment very hard to get when mental capacity declines, I doubt you would be able to get a doctor to declare you mother mentally incompetent due to past mental illness and early dementia.
From what you wrote in your profile, it doesn't seem as though your relationship with your mother is a positive one. Are you sure you want to be taking care of her?
as ( imo ) it should be ..
We could have a good relationship, but LO has a bad attitude towards her situation, and won't or can't communicate with me at all or properly, takes me trying help and/or keeping her best interest as i am the enemy and is being incidious, and the stress dealing with her roller-coaster mood swings and antics are wearing me down, like i am sure it does most everyone. Thank you, again, for your feedback.