I’d like a break from my 88 yo mother. I have a woman come 3 days a week for 4 hours. It’s not a true break since I am working from home during that time. I’m considering getting someone to do the remaining days but what I’d really like to set aside money for is a true week long out of town vacation (wouldn’t everyone like to escape with these covid restrictions!). I’m not crazy about a stranger living in my house 24/7. Doesn’t seem like nursing homes are doing short term stays unless it’s for rehab. None are calling me back. What do people do when they have an emergency and need to leave home?
Has she done rehab? If not, why not allow her to do rehab at a facility?
Have you spoken to her doctor about how her hip is healing?
We haven’t ruled it out completely... main issue is mom doesn’t want to give up her pup and independence. We were looking for respite care because my dad was put in hospice quite unexpectedly... he went from seriously ill to terminal cancer diagnosis in just a couple weeks.
Good luck in your search. I keep hoping by April the SNF here will be more opened up. But since we can't wait until then to make plans I think 24 hour assistance at home may be our only option.
Do you know of anyone who knows your Mom and be willing to stay with her?
This is such a difficult time for everyone. I wish you good luck and peace.
Since you have understandable trust issues with "strangers" being in your home. Consider other options that can give you the breaks you crave/need. Limit caregivers to a handful that you can develop a relationship with and eventually trust. Have those caregivers on duty for a shift or 2 and get out of the house for a break: take walks, run errands. visit parks and outdoor recreation areas... every week. Eventually, you should feel confident in getting a weekend away, and maybe even a week.
She'll be less likely to catch Covid.
Usually they like doing a 12 hr shift and like 5 or 6 days with 1 or 2 off.
You can hire 4 people 5 will be doing 2 12 hr shifts Mon - Fri and the Other two will work 12 hrs ea Sat and Sun.
If I were you, I would keep the lady I have and hire a new lady for a few hrs a few days a week and that way when you decide to go on a vacation they won't be strangers.
You could also hire for a 24 hr or a weekend stay to give yourself a break.
You might even ask the lady that works for you if she would like to do an overnight or a weekend stay.
If you're worried about strangers in your home,, looking your bedroom door and install cameras in the home and you can watch them 24 7 from your cell phone.
I use Nest Cameras at my 96 yr old Dad's house who uses 24 7 Care.
So, that