He lives in a senior group house I take him to all his appts daughter/ gets his meds etc. He's not dying. They want me to sign him up for hospice to get a nurse and Medicare would stop I don't think I like that idea hes, not able to walk slight dementia 88 years old looks good
I'm also seeing he's on blood thinners plus B-12 shots? That's it? Is dementia his actual diagnosis or is the dementia one of the symptoms of something else?
I'm beginning to 'understand' that not all states have the same resources as others. And this is very sad given the number of people today who are living into the very old stage.
When are our medical experts, our medical wizards, our government wizards going to stop arguing about stuff other than the important stuff and that us, people, elders who need help! Caregivers who need help!
God, I wish there were a delete button or an edit button! :)
Aging Care, please place a delete or edit button...please?
Having worked with Hospice, I think it's a wonderful idea. However, having said that, you're saying it's the group home doctor...yet another term I'm not familiary with. What is a group home?
Does he still have a personal doctor? What are the reasons given other than he'd be better off there? Is his swallowing starting to be affected, etc., etc. Looking good doesn't mean being good.
I'm coming from a different perspective in I believe people should be allowed to die naturally without the meds that are keeping the body alive when they have absolutely no understanding as to what is going on. Just because 'man' can do this doesn't mean it's natural.
And again, we all have different perspectives, which I believe makes it all interesting.
But whether it would benefit him or not, is he eligible for it? Does his family doctor think he is within 6 months of dying?
My husband died on hospice. It was wonderful, but we did not sign up until he was clearly near the end. My mother went on hospice in a nursing home. It, too, was a wonderful experience. Mom recovered and got off of hospice. Her neighbor in the NH is on hospice now, and it is especially nice because she has no family. A hospice staff person was in her room with her today. I hope the dear woman will not die all alone.
Hospice is a wonderful program, and can really be of great benefit for people who are dying. But it isn't for folks who would just like some extra attention.
Who is it that is encouraging you to sign your dad up for hospice? The Group Home? A hospice service? Dad's doctor? Something doesn't sound quite right here. Could you explain a little more?