My brother in law is dying of pancreatic cancer - only diagnosed last month. He has been like a brother - my sis & him divorced but have stayed close . I haven't seen him since my cancer fight five yrs ago - He only has a matter of days -what do I say to him & how do I say goodbye?
1. At one point, when my dad was unconscious, I said to him, you did everything you were supposed to, we're proud of you, you can go whenever you want. Later that night, he went into a coma and died the next day. I like to think he was waiting to hear that affirmation and felt OK leaving after that.
2. Apparently hearing is the last sense to go. So don't whisper around the person, talk about them to others in the room. Just try and be as "normal" as possible, if that is possible. :)
Sending healing thoughts to everyone dealing with loss/impending loss during the holiday season.