Mom is being taken to the nursing home tomorrow. She has Alzheimers and doesn't know that she's going. What is the best way to deliver her there with the least amount of trauma to her? She is still cognitive enough to raise holy Hell when we tell her or take her. How do I do this??
In my case mom went to assisted living after a bad fall. THIS IS JUST UNTIL YOU GET BETTER MOM. Dad went to visit, had lunch and dinner for a few days and I finally left him there one night. MOM NEEDS YOU HERE TO HELP HER AND MAKE SURE SHE DOESNT FALL.
It was still some very rough sledding but keeping up these themes was the only choice for me. You may find that your mom will not remember your fib. Tell her what ever she needs to hear. Change the story as needed.
You only have to keep smiling while your mother is watching; and then once you've left and you're feeling miserable remember...
IT'S OKAY NOT TO BE OKAY.
Agree a time with the staff to call and check up on her. Make a plan (sticking to it optional!) of something you'd like to do when you get home. And then, life goes on, and you will see her again very soon. Big hugs to you.