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There is a new service called PhonePals for Seniors that you should look into. I recently signed my mother up for it and she loves it and she has dementia. What they do is call her 5 days a week for about an hour each day. The same exact person calls her each time so there is a trust and comfort level. PhonePals has been so incredibly helpful. They don't just give my mom someone to talk to, they give her a friend that truly makes her a priority and it takes a lot of stress/pressure off of me. As a bonus, PhonePals for seniors also sends her a gift in the mail once a month to remind her that she is being thought of.
hopefully this can help someone as much as it has helped me
I should have mentioned Adult Day Care as an option as some others have done here. Adult Day Care, for even a couple of days or half days each week, can be a wonderful way for elders to socialize. It isn't cheap, but most people are very happy with the service and most elders really enjoy it once they get used to it. Some even have buses to pick them up.
Thank you everyone for the great suggestions. I'm looking into an adult day out program in our area. Either my husband or I can take her at least at first. I don't think my mother would enjoy all day every day but she might be willing to at least once or twice a week or maybe to specific events.
I take my dementia husband to adult services I call class. He doesn't enjoy everything they do but enough that he is willing to stay. I noticed lately he talks to different people even teaching them how to put 100 pc puzzles together. We haven't used the bus yet. Give them time to get used to it. Soon they feel secure. That is most importent.
I have another thought if your mom is like mine was (she hated the thought of going somewhere to socialize) how about someone to come in and 'visit' with her at home? We had a wonderful volunteer that came every week to 'visit' with her up until my mom died. In fact, because of her I'm thinking of volunteering to do the same thing. I'm on disability and can't do much, but I can be a good visitor and I can give the caregiver a break as I know all the stages of Alz. and maybe I can re-pay some of the kindness that was shown to us. Blessings, Lindaz
you might check your local senior center. In our town, our center is not large but they have lunch 3 days a week and bingo and etc. If your mom is able to be there alone...that is an option. I attend with my mom (she has mobility issues) but she has her own buddies and enjoys chatting with the older gents at lunch. Go visit first and talk with the center director.
Check out and see if there is an "Alzheimer's Cafe" in your area. Sponsored by the Alzheimer's Foundation - the programs are hosted in a variety of locations. One near me is at the local Art Museum 1 or 2 days a month. Gives patient and caregivers a chance to enjoy a day out. Mom doesn't have Alzheimer's, so I don't have first hand knowledge but several of my friends at the support group have tried them.
JoAnn29, I sure hope the Day program is as helpful for your mom as it was for my husband. They do not generally call it daycare. Officially it is Adult Day Health Program. Many caregivers refer to it as the Club.
My husband never got to the point where he admitted liking it, but I could still tell it was good for him!
Mom just tried her first day at Daycare. Since I don't like that word, I say Adult center to her. She was iffy about it mainly the activities. With Dementia, she has lost the ability to comprehend. Told her if she didn't want to do the activities she didn't have to. They were for the different people who were there, some mentally challenged. Some her age probably have the same problem. Explained that she says she is bored and this is a place to socialize and have nice breakfast and lunch. Trying again Tuesday. They transport and give showers no extra cost.
I second the suggestion womenofGod makes. An adult day health program is an awesome option! Many programs pick up and bring home the participant, provide a simple breakfast and a hot lunch and snacks. Some also offer services such as nail care and showers (for an extra fee.) They help participants to the bathroom, are prepared to handle accidents, and offer activities. Good ones also allow for the participants to pass on the activities. Sometimes they have field trips to restaurants or a ballgame or a park. They are generally available from one to five days a week. This was a really good opportunity for my husband to socialize a bit. It is surprising how much difference it can make to have another adult say, "New shirt today? That color is good for you!"
Medicaid generally covers these programs. Sometimes the programs have "scholarships" for those who can't afford to self-pay.
If there is such a program in your area, I urge you to check it out. It is a nice "club" -- even if the participant is reluctant.
My mom had been isolated in the house pretty much for years except for doctor's appointment. When I came to stay about 6 months ago we had some in home care. Then we started going to the senior center for lunch. Now she is going to Adult day care. She is coming out of her she'll little by little. She made a friend who is deaf and can't speak but they find a way to communicate. Hope this helps.
For my mom, having a daytime caregiver has been a godsend. Both the caregiver & I (when I am able to visit at least 5 times per week) take mom for a walk around the neighborhood in her wheelchair. Mom loves the change of scenery, greeting her neighbors and commenting on the flowers & various decorations. The goal is to get mom outside for a walk at least twice a day so she gets a change of scenery and fresh air. Her mood, awareness, focus and conversational skills are always so much better after each walk!
Your local senior commission likely offers a number of activities, but your mom may need someone to take her. If you can't take her to functions, you could hire a caregiver from a local agency just for that purpose. These people take the care receiver for groceries and other shopping and to events if that is what is wanted. Look into this and see what can be done. Take care of yourself, too. Carol
Check with your local Council On A, they should have a list of things you could try, My Mom goes to the daycare a couple days a week and it really helps.
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Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
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APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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hopefully this can help someone as much as it has helped me
Carol
My husband never got to the point where he admitted liking it, but I could still tell it was good for him!
Medicaid generally covers these programs. Sometimes the programs have "scholarships" for those who can't afford to self-pay.
If there is such a program in your area, I urge you to check it out. It is a nice "club" -- even if the participant is reluctant.
Take care of yourself, too.
Carol