My friend of many years, Kathy, fell in her home and broke her hip. She had surgery to repair it, returned home and developed either MRSA or Staph-no one has been able to tell me. When the ambulance came to get her the second time, an unknown well-meaning busybody, called APS and said she was living in squalor with animal feces in the house.. This is in Avery County, NC. She was placed in a local hospital and then moved to a more advanced hospital to clear up the infection. Her medication was all over the place and she sounded like she was crazy to the average person. Kathy has always been a little different but the word I'd use is eccentric-not crazy. Kathy has now been moved to a rehab facility not far from her home. Her medication is back under control and she is sounding more like her old self. I went to see her-both in Charlotte and back at the rehab. I cleaned her house and found not a single animal fece or urine stain anywhere. I have her dog and am caring for it until she can return home. The social worker who is assigned to her case, has questioned me regarding her finances and property she owns. I have been paying her bills with checks she signed for me during our visit.
My concern is this, what power does APS have over her and her future? Can they deem her "unfit to take care of herself" and force her into a home? She owns several rental properties in addition to a very nice home in this very poor county in NC. Kathy has never been "normal" by our standards-but that's just who she is. She lost her husband to pancreatic cancer 15 or more years ago and wants to donate her property to a local college because they agreed to name a building after him, in order to preserve his memory. I am her executor when she passes but she is only 62 and has the potential to live many more years. She keeps asking me-when is she coming home and I can't seem to get a straight answer from the rehab. Unfortunately, she did not sign a POA naming me or anyone else before this happened because she has been healthy. This means her bank won't speak with me so I'm collecting mail and viewing bank statements to keep her solvent while she is recovering.
Would someone please let us know our options in NC regarding an APS investigation? Do I need to hire an attorney for her? It's really scary that they can come in and decide your future for you if you have no family.
I would also get the house all nice and clean looking and take pictures and a video of the home before she returns to it. Open the cabinets and take shots of how the bathroom shelves look with the supplies for daily care; ditto for shots of the open refrigerator, pantry shelves.
Now at some point in time, she will need to get all her legal together. So you may want to start to find an experienced elder law attorney for her. I would suggest you contact a couple in larger towns (like in Charlotte rather than one in the more remote area where you live) and you also want to mention to them that there could be a malpractice issue with her getting a hospital based MRSA infection.
There are some things you need to do for yourself in all this. Please carefully document to the penny everything you have paid for from the checks she gave you. Xerox all this and make sure to keep all the original receipts. Just to be extra careful, think about your own credit situation and if there could be any sticky issues for you (like you have a foreclosure or any police record or anything that APS or some long lost family could throw at you. If she is deemed unable to do for herself, in order for the state NOT to have her become a ward of the state with a state appointed guardian, the potential guardian (you) will need to have a pretty spotless record and have enough income so that there could be no incentive for financial impropriety. I don't know if all states do this, but for my mom the attorney did in addition to the DPOA, MPOA and codicils to her will, he also did a "Guardianship in case of Incapacity" statement - which names who she wants to be her guardian if that situation should arise. It gets around having to do the whole rather expensive several probate court hearings that go into establishing suitability for a guardian- if SC allows for that you want to get it as it helps solidify your standing as you are not a relative.
I would hope that she recovers enough so that she can do the DPOA, MPOA and get all the banking done so that you are a signature on the account and be able to get back to her old odd self!
It's not unusual for paramedics to report unsafe living conditions to APS. That may be what happened.
I'd say she may be on thin ice by now. Her FUTURE conduct is probably more important than her past in this case; as it can be chalked up to the infection. I'd explain this to her and suggest that she allow home healthcare and be very cooperative with any suggestions they have for ongoing services in her home.
My inkling is that, if she refuses all assistance and is completely against their recommendations, she's going to have a difficult time of it. They will act in what they perceive to be her best interests.
From everything you've said (and not said), I'd say she's being watched.
And I'd also say she's very fortunate to have such a good friend.
MRSA is staph. It's a strain of the staph bacteria that is resistant to antibiotics.
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