My husband and I have battles and I know one of us could get hurt, and I would be to blame because he has Alzheimer's. Lately he refuses to let me do anything: bathe him, change adult incontinence pads, etc, and giving him his sedative is difficult and it doesn't seem to calm him anymore; I have tried everything I know to let him have some quality to his life but he fights every step. He cannot talk, and I don't think he can understand what I'm trying to tell him, so he just yells, tries to hit, push, etc. I will push him onto a bed or chair just to protect myself. No outside care has worked as he does this to others too; at a recent week of respite he gave everyone a hard time and they told me they didn't know how I coped with him day after day. I think he may have bed sores now, from laying long hours in wet clothes, but he won't let me check it out, clean or do anything. I don't think he has less than 6 months to live, but I do wonder if he is in the last stages of AD and should I call Hospice. I am losing my ability to love him and feel burned out.
You also have aright to a life. In his right mind would he want you to be going through this? What would he have said?
So yes its definetly time for you I know its hard but you cant live like this as ive said before this woman had ALL her kids helping out everyday and still couldnt cope as his aggression became worse.
Let us know how you get on but please look after yourself! Hugs.