I cannot put an untrained puppy on an airplane in a dog carrier for 2 hours. I cannot drive 1 1/2 days either. They do not want to come up to spend the month with us. First my mom is ok with me not being with her and now she’s making me feel guilty by sounding so sad. Help!?
You can easily board the puppy and/or drive your car to her home or fly there. Own it if you choose not to. And if you feel guilty as a result, so be it. You can't have it both ways.
"I understand your 70th anniversary is a milestone occasion that few people live to see and that you'd like to have your whole family together for such an auspicious occasion, but my puppy is more important to me than you are."
Seems like that's the gist of it, right? Since you'd never board your dog, we know he'll be your top priority longer than your parents will be alive, so you might as well tell them not to count on you from here on out.
Shame on you.
"I can't come to your party, you should have given us more notice, but why don't you two people in your nineties get on a plane and come to us for a month instead?"
And what about their dog? Do they still have a dog?
I never quite know what to say when posters seem to be asking for confirmation that it is absolutely fine for them to do whatever it is they're going to do anyway.
Your parents' 70th wedding anniversary has been in the calendar for seventy years. Did you not guess they might like to celebrate it? - and perhaps have "a bit of a do" that might involve people besides just yourself?
If you don't want to go, don't go. But don't expect your mother to be okay with it - it isn't okay.
I found that my parents, who also were in their 90's, still viewed me as being 35 with a ton of energy, still traveling the world, yada, yada, yada. I just couldn't convince them that I, too, was a senior citizen. Those days of long travel was now history.
Don't use the puppy as an excuse, just tell your parents that traveling is difficult now a days. Covid is peeking around the corner again, masks will probably need to be required to fly, staff shortages, and rude angry passengers, not to mention very long lines, and flight delays. Plus shortages of rental cars.
Don't forget, what I listed above, your parents would face if they came to visit you.
Could you trust a reliable pet sitter for a few days?
At 90 years old do you really think your parents can fly to you. To be honest, I don't know if I would fly to them with the way things are now. Not just the security thing but the COVID thing. We have never had it but contracted it somewhere on our trip. Flights are being cancelled left and right.
Not everyone makes 70 yrs of Marriage. Its a shame u will miss it because you have no one to care for the puppy. You wouldn't even trust your vet to kennel the pup?
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