We live in a city that has a good bit of traffic and lots of active people. I have a hard time figuring out what to do on holidays, e.g. July 4th or Memorial Day. There are events planned, but Mom doesn't walk well. There are so many people now that you might have to park many blocks away and walk to the event. It's not very practical. I usually just end up getting some barbecue and bringing it home. The only family we have here have their own plans for the holiday that don't include an elderly mother.
What do the people here do on July 4th? I thought it would be fun to start having a barbecue at the house. Alas, I don't know anyone who won't be with their own family. I don't know who I could invite. Man, I'm a bit pitiful. I need some ideas.
We just cooked burgers and dogs, fixings and enjoyed the afternoon. The weather wasn't great anyway. One of the guest stayed 5 hours! So, I think they enjoyed it. My parents like to retire pretty early, so fireworks are out. My dad and I did catch some on tv.
If you are in a large city, there are probably more options for holiday celebrations.
In recent years when that was too difficult we'd go to an early movie and watch the fireworks in the sky on the drive home
This is her first 4th in memory care and while I expect the facility might do something to acknowledge the day I plan to bring dessert in the evening and sit outside with her and hope to catch a few fireworks in the sky - if she doesn't want to do that well then we'll just have pie
My mother is a certified sweetie. Her dementia has not modified that. She takes pleasure in little things. She loves her children. She has no Golden Child. She is very well liked by the nursing home staff.
I feel sorry for people who are taking care of grumps and ingrates. And even if it is the dementia that causes that, it is still hard to deal with. My heart goes out to you.
What I am doing this year on the 4th is watching a parade 30 miles away, with the residents of Mom's nursing home. My sisters will be, too, so we can help Mom and a couple other residents, too.
We were exhausted. Coy thoroughly enjoyed the evening and we enjoyed his enjoyment.
His health improved. In the subsequent years unless he was having a bad day we went to local events, in his own wheelchair. So every Fourth I now think of that baptism by fire that Barb and I had in taking Coy to a big event.
Even though Coy could walk we used a wheelchair for all events, all trips, all tours. Safer and more efficient.