My mother has always been fairly dramatic but it has gotten way out of hand. My father was in Pearl Harbor and she told some acquaintances that he shot down a kamikaze plane. That never happened. The next one was that she served in the military. Also never happened; the government paid for her nurse's training during WWII because they need the medical personnel. The war ended when she was half way through her training. She never served at all. I am sometimes at my wits end - when I correct her she gets really upset with me. But I feel I am not doing her a kindness by letting her tell theses whoppers. Should I just let her continue with this without correction or should I correct her. My mom was the type of person who was VERY correct and the worst thing that could happen to her was to be embarrassed. I don't know which would be the best. If she was in her right mind this wouldn't be happening. Her dementia came on fast about a year ago and she is losing ground every day. She'll be 90 on 02/24.
Educate yourself about dementia.. Teepa Snow videos on youtube are wonderful.. You have a long road ahead of you so try to be prepared..
Good luck..
Do not correct her.
Mama was always a huge contributor in her earlier years to the Republican party and George Bush was her man..She loved Reagan too, but she just really loved George, Sr. and also the "W"...She started telling us that George and Laura were moving in to the house at the end of the street and she was so excited....There was some new highway project in the works at the time and some issue with funding that had been in the papers and I'm sure she just got all the components nice and mixed up....but you could never convince her they weren't coming...we just went on with it as what hard could it do...
And there was always the infamous one about the time she was coming home from the grocery and a car almost t boned her and she went over on two wheels and to keep from turning over she put her elbow out the window and managed to keep the car upright....bless her heart...she told that one a lot...and she always got really animated when she told it...and to be honest we usually began to get tickled because she told it so often, but she seemed to enjoy telling it so again, we just let her .....Lord I miss that sweet little Mama of mine....
Okay, what spaceship descended? I wouldn't leave dishes in the sink mainly because she would rinse them and call them washed. I wash them totally before she can do that. The main p*sser, though, was that I do 99.9% of the work at the house. Even if I did leave a bowl, so what?
So it made me mad to hear her say this, even if she thought it might be true. So should I call her on it or just absorb the anger that goes with this type behavior?
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