My husband and his siblings just learned from a health aide who visits his mother's and step-father's home daily that step-father (passive personality, COPD, mild cognitive decline, and mobility problems) is buying wine for my husband's mother (stage 4 dementia) because he finds her easier to handle when she's been drinking. His response to the aide when she questioned this was essentially, this is our house and we will do as we please. My husband's mother has always been a difficult person: narcissistic, liked to be in charge. What to do about this alcohol issue? I searched the forums here but did not find anything. Anyone ever dealt with something like this? From what I have read, this drinking will accelerate her decline. (Perhaps that is what he wants? He's already had enough? Financially they are not well off so they would need to seek Medicaid assistance for any placement in a memory care home.)
Surely we know how good it feels to:
"take the edge off".
I doubt that social services wud find fault with it. Likely the Dr wouldn't either, given her condition.
Sounds like it's working for them.
In my opinion, at an advanced age and in poor health overall, what's the difference if they eat chocolate or drink wine? If it winds up decreasing their time on Earth, in the end, that may be a blessing. Dementia takes away mostly everything in their lives, why take away even MORE? That's my mindset with my 92 year old mother who suffers from dementia and a host of other medical conditions.
Best of luck!
I could be wrong, but how MUCH wine figures here.