Parent lives with sibling in another state. Sibling lets cell go to voicemail and has house phone disconnected and writes letter to me saying if I come there he will get a restraining order. My parent has dementia most likely does not know I’m trying to call. I have had wellness checks done in past but all fine and dandy at house that he remodeled with my parents money. My parent has very poor memory and there is no other relatives in that state aps does not return calls and knows of my siblings bankruptcy as well. Lawyers tell me file for guardianship but I am out of state and work FT and am raising children. Should I just visit with the local sheriff in that town? As nobody in this state can contact them there and I am worried and supposed to guess how my parent is doing. Is there any other legal options besides guardianship?
She lives alone across the st from me & has had falls in her house so my last call to APS I told them how she’s not safe living alone & would not be able to get out of the house on her own in an emergency.......they finally listened & she now has to have a 24/7 caregiver. I’m still not allowed to see her but I’m working on it.
the police will tell you it’s a civil matter & wont get involved. Don’t give up though. It’s really terrible how control & greed goes to some siblings heads!
If your objective goes beyond having contact and open communication with mom or you can't put aside your frustration and bad feelings toward your brother enough to soft pedal it then you may be spending more time and energy fighting while he digs his heels in deeper than quality time with mom before she gets worse but your approach may need to be legal then.
I sure hope you and your brother can come to a truce of sorts and work something out here for all of your benefit but especially for your mom. Good luck.