She is impossible. She screams, throws things, cusses him out and he has about had it. He lives there and takes such tender care of her but she is a narcissist and doesn't care AT ALL that all the neighbors thinks she's nuts by the way she treats him. She lives in Greece. He is about to walk and there is no one else who will care for her and she refuses to go into a senior facility. She would lose it royally, kicking and screaming, literally, if she had to go. And I can't have her here in the U.S. No facility would take her. She is exasperating and I don't know what to do if he walks. She'll be left alone in her apartment. As I mentioned, no one will care for her because of her behavior. And this isn't new. She's always been a handful but now I don't know how to handle this if she has no one to take care of her.
You know that her conduct is not normal and not manageable. An evaluation can indicate whether she has the capacity to control herself or not.
If she does not have diagnosable dementia, she may benefit from medication. If she DOES Hhave dementia, she will not be able to make her own decisions about how her care continues, and may STILL need a mood stabilizer toco tool her outbursts.
Whether she kicks and screams or not, a dementia diagnosis means that she is no longer able to be responsible for herself.
I am sorry that you are dealing with this situation. I am sure it is quite frustrating for you.
The poor caregiver deserves a million dollar raise! If you really feel that he is ready to walk and who could blame him then you will have no other choice but to find a new caregiver or start looking at facilities.
Best of luck to you.