My husband took care of his mother. She had a stroke and was paralyzed on her left side so she needs 24/7 care. She moved in with us, he took care of her. He was recently diagnosed with stage 4 kidney cancer and passed away suddenly. I have 3 children, one a 7 month old baby. What can I do with my mother-in-law I cannot take care of her too...
Call your local Area Agency on Aging and ask for their help. Is your MIL on Medicaid? Are their other family members who can help MIL or you? How old is MIL? Let us know what you find out. Hopefully others will have additional suggestions. My condolences on your lost.
If you would like to place your MIL in a skilled nursing facility take a tour of a couple of places and decide which one you think will suit her needs best. Once you've decided you can avail yourself of the services of their social worker who will help you do what you need to do to get your MIL in. Usually a person has to go on Medicaid in order to afford a nursing home. The social worker will be a great help in navigating the Medicaid system.
Is your MIL aware? Have you spoken to her about the new situation? Would it work if she was allocated 24/7 care? Or do you need for her to move?
As 97yroldmom says. Call your local Area Agency on Ageing and ask for their help.
You need help. No shame is asking for it.
Good Luck