I'm currently in the "push your pride to the side" stage in caregiving but cant get over a empty tank of energy. Getting away don't seem to fill the hole. I'm sure I dont share this feeling alone so if you could I'd love to know if any tips on how to get over this hurdle.
Peace and Love
-Jamie
Start making that plan today. Start organizing your plan with goals that you can work toward now.
Stop leaving your life in limbo...move forward. Even if it is just reading and dreaming about it each night...start now. The deeper you get into a plan, the more satisfied you will be day to day.
I live two hours away. I was amazed at how much I had to do that had been on the back burner for a good while because of the weekly trips. Before when I was there I seldom had time to just sit down and visit. Now aunt and I have more time together. It has really helped.
During this time my husband and I took an out of state trip and really felt like we were on vacation knowing that I had this extra layer of help. Everyone's situation is different. I know this might not last but for now I am enjoying it.
So many adult children have this sense of duty and its hard to get over this hurdle. For myself I had so much anger and resentment. I tried to keep going and going but I was just digging myself deeper. In hindsight, I tried to keep my dad at home, but maybe I should have looked at putting my dad into a assisted living or nursing home care sooner. I'm not someone that is very good at setting boundaries. And there was no validation or acknowledgment either. It was a vicious circle. Take a step back and really ask yourself how do you want to spend every day.