My mother is telling me that she is visiting with her mother who died over 40 years ago and conversing with my brother who passed away 4 years ago. I don’t want to distress her with a “jolt of reality” but I don’t know if going along with it is healthy either. Not sure what to do, any advice?
Don't discourage it. Why? They are enjoying this and I think it's a 'help' for the aging one who is going to join them soon. We actively encouraged my g-ma to get up and 'go' with granddad, whom she had lost 36 years previously. My own daddy saw his mom and sister. So calming for him.
If the dreams are agitating them--that's a different story. But my LO's all had pleasant 'experiences'.