They may come around once a month. should I be asking for help? I feel I don't need to ask they do nothing I am by my self taking care of my paralyzed husband taking care of a house by myself inside and out it really angers me they never ask is there anything I can do for you around the house nothing. very sad.
Mother lives with one brother, until a recent falling out, I was going to her place 2-3 times a weeks to clean, run errands, do general stuff she can't do. Now nobody is doing it and I hear her place is a wreck. Well, she shouldn't have told me to get lost.
In fairness, I will get over this and I will go back and do what I can for Mother. She is not really hard to get along with, but all she wants to talk about is the sibs who DON'T visit, what are they up to? and her few friends and their lives. She has no interest in me or my family, never really has. Sadly, I'm the "least favorite" and so she can dump on me. I think the other sibs just have never had her on the radar, so to speak. She NEVER initiates calls, for one thing, she expects everyone else to call HER. And they don't. They were all really, really shocked by how much her general health has declined since they saw her 8 months ago at a family function. (This was at Christmas). Clueless is the word, for sure.
WHY do some family never help out? If we could answer that, we would have the solution to 90% of the problems on this board. If everyone took a turn or a piece of responsibility, there wouldn't be so many burned out, depressed caregivers!