My dad has fallen twice in the last year and broken bones both times. He is almost totally blind and showing signs of dementia. My problem is... he doesn't want to stay with me and or leave home at all, really. He would be ok if he just had someone to check on him every other day and help keep his meds straight. I live 2 states away. Back to my question, how do you know, for sure, when it is time to make your parents leave home and not do that by making them angry with you? I have checked into assisted living, but that is more than he gets a month, so for now, that's out of the question.
Is you Dad a veteran? Aid and Attendence for veterans is worth looking into. Meals on Wheels could mean a daily visit. Paying a neighbor to stop in once a day for 10 minutes could be affordable if you had the right neighbor. You might calls his local Dept of Family and Childrens Services Office and speak to their Elder Care department. They might help you determine if he is 'a danger to himself' (at risk). You might get hijm to agree to a phone call once a day and he could take his meds then. God luck, dear.
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Should Your Loved One Continue Living at Home?
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Here's a thought that might be worth pursuing. Google 'Veterans retirement homes' - there are a few big ones but also state ones. If he is eligible this might be a place he would be comfortable considering - don't know how the costs work.
Others have made good suggestions about Veteran's facilities and other options.
My mother still wants to go home even though she is in very late stages of diagnosed alzheimers. I feel for you. Be strong in dealing with dementia and alzheimers. You will not be able to make them happy and yet get the they need for safety.