One day she' pretty much ok then 2 days later is seeing things or not sure where she is. She had another UTI which is now cleared up plus her new Dr. put her on a low dose anti-depressant which she would normally never have taken but she seems much happier with it. Before this I was pretty sure it was time....I, also, brought in a home care worker 4 hours in the a.m. which has certainly helped both of us. The Dr. said to start spending down her money but I'm afraid of doing that too soon....this is just so confusing...........also (this is really strange) after a lifetime of being mean and nasty (narcissistic) she's suddenly a sweet little old lady....shocking to everyone who's known her...is this normal (whatever 'normal') is?
That means,of course, that you need to sit down and think about the criteria.
Also, you MUST talk to an elder lawyer. "Spending down" the funds might be meaningless if it has to have occurred six years prior to admittance to the AL. Things are not always what they seem--oh, boy, is that ever true. So, safety first. Be informed correctly. Lawyers are not doctors, and vice versa.
Said "omg i wish i had these years ago!!!"
I chose to never put my mom in a NH and its hard but i hire morning help when i can. Its your choice, you dont ever have to so take your time.