My dad had a stroke Sept of 2014 ànd was paralyzed for about four months and slowly regained his strength to sit up and eventually walk with a walker. I am a single mother to a non verbal autistic child and after dad's insurance ran out for the nursing home my siblings told me I had to take dad. I took care of him for 7 months and had a caregiver while I was at work all while tackling my sons behavior, speech and occupational therapies. I couldn't do it any more. I came to the realization I'm all my son has and I need to be healthy. So I put my dad in an independent living facility and told my sister in passing the torch to her. Well she could've hired a part time caregiver or something but instead decided to spend the remaining $400 from my dad's monthly disability checks. Nobody is trying to sell my dad's house and my sister is taking my dad out of this place to live in her house that she won't be living in. My grandfather who has Parkinson's and hasn't taking his insulin in months and his gf who has frequent mini strokes will be my dad's caregivers all in efforts to "save money" while my sister is spending $200 a month on fake eyelashes and tanning salons and payday loan places are calling my phone for her!. I should mention prior to me helping her scrub her house for a week, it should've been on the show hoarders. She wants to take away my dad's phone because family came to visit and saw the condition of his apartment and were concerned for his well being. I'm really at the end of my rope. Everytime I try to save the situation my son gets out of control and my own home life is up in flames. Realizing there is nothing else I can do, I'm considering calling adult protective services anonymously as soon as my dad moves in her house on the 26th and changing my number. I hate this. I wish there were two of me. But I have to do what's best for my child first and foremost.
Stop trying to "save the situation". Do what you can do with what you have and let the rest go. It's difficult to step in to try to fix the situation and then step back out and say you're not involved. You either are or you're not involved.
And please think about Rainmom's answer really carefully. I know it's really hard to get past the incredible stress and anxiety of the situation, but she's speaking from experience and she's absolutely on the money. Best of luck, take deep breaths.