Boy, oh boy! If I had a dollar for each time I've heard this today, I'd be one wealthy lady!!... And, if she only knew that I have taken her keys away from her along time ago, she'd wring my neck off!! But, what do I do??? Help her look for them until she forgets (10-15 minutes) later, that is what I do!!... Tomorrow, who know's, it may be her med's, purse, or even ME she is looking for!!... DOG, the bounty hunter, doesn't have a thing on me because I HUNT ALL DAY, and sometimes at night!! It is what it is, and I know it isn't gonna get any better, but I sure do dread getting up in the morning's to hear the 'same old, same old', all day. H.E.L.P
My Mom is coming for a week --I am picking her up Sunday. She is not too bad about asking for her things and gave up her car pretty willingly but she never really liked to drive(she and I both have a horrible sense of direction). But I did notice last time she was here she kept asking for her purse at night. That is when I found out she keeps her Requip in there and wanted to take it all night. (sigh) I hope she doesn't put up a fight over that again.
The only thing my Mom really does a lot is get fixated on so something that she wants done -like she wanted me to fix her sewing machine ( me?-I don't know how to fix a sewing machine!!) and could not understand that I could not do it. I had to take her to it and try to fix it and only after I "worked" on it for a bit did she let it go. It is still broken. She cannot really sew anymore anyway. She wakes up with an agenda and it has to be done ASAP. My poor Dad deals with this daily --thus me giving him a break. Last time she woke up insisting that they needed to get me a birthday card -bugged him all morning -told him they would be late -Dad called me to have me tell her my birthday was not until next month! Even after he showed her the calendar she wrote on! She seemed upset when I told her Dad was right --she knows she is slipping more and it is making her sad. (again, sigh)
Hugs to you all.
My mother always wants her checkbook which I had to take away sometime back. I have her POA so I handle all finances but she wants that checkbook, so I made her a duplicate of the one I have, minus the checks, which still ticks her off. She was taking the checkbook and hiding it and then screaming at me wanting to know where it was. Finally I had enough and said, "NO MORE!" It is hard sticking to your guns when you have a dementia parent who seems to be rational at times and other times a raving angry maniac. A therapist told me to learn to deflect or focus her attention on something else, which does not always work but it is worth a try.
Walter was my dad's pet name for his gun. Mom always said, "if I didn't hide that thing, God knows what he would do."
I am sorta kidding sorta not. Of course you run the risk of being driven crazy by a singing fish.....
Hang in there. (((hugs)))
Also Dysfunctional Family Bingo - Google it! Keep a tally of how many episodes in a day, and at night reward yourself with that many M&M's, or that many ML's of wine, or that many minutes in a bathtub with candles. Make it a game by keeping statistics for a month or so.
Mostly, don't let it get to you. It is going to happen. She can't stop it. You can't stop it, Chuckle and go on. Secretly straighten your house while you pretend to look for the keys. Easy to say and hard to do, but TRY for the sake of your sanity.