6 children involved. Only 1 has POA. Now parent has advanced Alzheimer. My husband is 24/7 ONLY caregiver. POA went from struggling while working, to brand new trucks, cars & trips, unemployed. Moved in moms home, sent her to another state, our home. Husband quit job to care for his mom. He was getting 2000.00 a month to care for her & whatever left was his pay. He finally got POA to pay 2400.00 a month. Last wk was my 2nd heart attack in 3 years & I have had it!!!! I have lost my marriage, health & the love of my life. They all know POA will go to jail & to damn scared to do or say anything. His fear they will take mom & she will die in a few months & sister will go to jail. In 2008 mom was VERY secure for next 20 yrs!!! Now she is broke. I have kept my mouth shut for peace in the family but today I don't give a damn who goes to jail & who the hell is broke. I was told today by POA hope I can get back to work soon & my daughter & her family need to get out of our home. It was taking from the care of the mom. It has been wonderful having the extra help here & who the hell do they think they are dictating who can live in my home???? I opened my home to their mom & I love & adore her dearly. I am so upset out of 6 children only 1 seems to care for their mom. He is upset & fearful of POA coming from another state & removing his mom & no way to pay bills. He will be blamed for it all. Either I pack & walk away from 15 yrs of a wonderful life to blowing the top on all the POA lies, stealing & likely jail time. How in the world can the law allow the POA to do this with someone's life. There has been no state or family accounting of funds. So keep my mouth shut & let God handle it or at the age of 55 open the gates of H*LL cause at this point NO ONE wins or loses!!?????
Can husband get another job? Mom really belongs in a facility at this point if she has advanced alzheimers with three shifts of caregivers.
Many people were financially secure in 2008 who were then NOT in 2009 due to the recession. I agree that the trucks, etc, sound suspicious, but is that really your issue?
If there are funds for mom's care, start looking for an appropriate placement for her (if you can private pay at first, you will have more choices; you can apply for Medicaid for her later on) and encourage husband in his job search.