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My mom has seen people "in" the china cabinet and the turtle tank. I think this was due to her eyesight. But at other times she does ask who the man is or who the kids are. I know this is going to sound weird to some, but I believe in the paranormal and believe she is seeing family members who have passed or those who have been sent to watch over her.
My mother sometimes sees people who are not there. It seems to happen if she is dehydrated. I tried to ask her what they look like but then she realizes that I don't see them too. I think she is a bit embarrassed. She has told me that the people she sees appear to be children. Anyway, I try to get her to drink more fluids and the visions go away.
Windytown, I'm not so sure about what "lies" lighthealer means, but I can tell you when I researched Lewy Body Dementia after my mom was diagnosed, it really helped me understand what had been happening to my wonderful mother over the last 10 yrs of so. I am grateful to God that I had her as long as I did, and that she had her mind for as long as she did. Once she was diagnosed, it helped me understand what this disease was doing. Her delusions or hallucinations were not because she was going off into the spirit world. They were caused by a disease that was affecting her brain. She had no control over what was happening. Many of the things she heard or saw were bits and parts of what she once knew, or bits and parts of what she was reading in the newspaper and hearing on tv. I was so grateful to read the book: A Caregiver's guide to Lewy Body Dementia. I knew my mom didn't have alzheimer's , but reading this book helped me see how my mom, like Nana24's mom had most of the symptoms. She died 3 months after being diagnosed, and I would have to say this disease progressed exactly as the book said it would. In hindsight I was able to see how the disease had been progressing over the last 10 years. It was unbelievable! This is why I've stayed on this site even tho mom passed away January 1st. Just 27 days ago. I feel if I can help even one person get through what lies ahead regarding their caregiving, my mom's life was not in vain. Had I known about LBD, I know I could have avoided alot of unnecessary pain and tears. I would have understood why my mom would shift from my sweet mom, to hurting me to the core, and why she started sleeping so many hours in a day. I would have understood why she would have certain days where she would do laundry until everything was washed and ironed and how she made sure to tell me all she did (almost like proving to me she was still so strong), then for the next 2 days I would have to nurse her back to health. It's called "showtime". A person with LBD really doesn't have control over it. This book really helps you understand how the mind is like a "filing cabinet", and why those with LBD are different from Alziemer's patients. At least I had this knowlege the last 3 months of moms' life, and I really believe it helped me handle things better. I understood what was happening to her and why she would do what she did. Even how she would get her clear mind back for a short time. Then "Lewy" would come back. I was able to recognize when "lewy" was there and when he was gone. The more info we have the better we are able to take care of our loved ones, and ourselves. That is why I am so thankful for this site.
My mother sees people off and on ... including kids (but no aliens! if she did, I think I would make a run for it). She also sees deceased relatives. I don't know who the kids are she sees ... sometimes is two little girls. Now, please don't be offended but ya gotta have a sense of humor with some of these things: During on period of time my mother was complaining of so many relatives visiting (NO ONE was in the house but she and I) and I told my sister that at least I didn't have to worry about mom being lonely while I was at work! :) :) She was very dehydrated at the time, and it turned out she had a UTI.
It could be that your mother has Lewy Body Dementia (LBD), a progressive neurodegenerative disease that affects 1.3 million Americans. Seeing children or small animals are typical hallucinations characteristic of this disease. People with LBD may also see adults - my husband, who has LBD, once watched enthralled as a troupe of "actors" set up in our backyard and prepared to film a Civil War re-enactment -- all a figment of his imagination. Fortunately for him, his hallucinations aren't threatening, although I have heard that some LBD patients have had frightening visions.
I would highly recommend that you have your mother examined by a good neurologist and make sure that this individual is familiar with Lewy Body Dementia. Unfortunately, there is no test for LBD - a diagnosis is made by an examination of symptoms. Other symptoms can include excessive daytime sleepiness, sleep disturbances (including acting out vivid dreams), blank facial expression, balancing difficulties and shuffling gait, and loss of interest in hobbies, activities, etc. It is extremely important to get an accurate diagnosis because medications that can help people with Alzheimers or Parkinsons Diseases can have an extremely negative effect on people with LBD.
My mother also does this. She constantly talks about what the "kids" are doing. She doesn't claim to see kids, but she does see people around the house even when it is just she and I. It does no good to tell her it's just us because she becomes quite snarky and derogatory about me being unable to see what should be as plain as the nose on my face. Quite often she will not want to sit in her chair because she claims someone is already sitting there.
When I talked to her nurse and doctor about these behaviors they assured me that many dementia and Alzheimer's patients experience the same thing. They also caution me to keep her well hydrated. She is also checked for UTI's on a regular basis as this can cause hallucinations. So, if your mother is seeing more "odd" things than usual, please have her checked for a UTI. Left untreated, UTI's can prove fatal.
My mom has had alzheimers for about 10 years. She sees children and people too off and on, and will ask about "the baby" or "my baby." As long as the hallucinations don't bother her, I don't worry too much about them.
Thank You all who have responded to my question! I thought to myself it would be interesting to get different stories on this subject to see how common it is. I try to listen to my Mom's conversations with an open mind. Sometimes I add input or ask questions, I want her to continue because I find it interesting. I also try to figure out if it's the Dementia, Medication, a different illness, etc. that causes the actions or reactions in her behavior. After reading these posts I'm starting to think the kids are spirits or angels just something perhaps that we can't see because or minds are cluttered with earthly mumbo-jumbo and we are not meant to see these sort of things. My Mom always see's her Dad sometimes her Mom. Since I have become my Mom's caregiver, I have been accomplishing things that I never thought I could and I believe someone has been guiding me and been giving me strength and opening my mind to do what I needed to protect my Mom. Call me crazy but I should have fallen apart long ago!!! Now I am here trying helping others, so I can keep other's from falling apart, almost as if it has been my life's mission all along.
It has been documented for millennia and especially in the last 100 yrs or so that as we near the "other side" we actually intermingle with this dimension. Keep an open mind about these people and animals our loved ones perceive. In Love and Light!
I am so glad I asked this question. Thank you all for sharing!!! Reading the newer posts I just remember something... As a hairdresser I get close to people especially the aging ones I find there conversations so interesting, my co-workers say I have a lot patients (not meaning customers...listening time) with them. I find the stories they tell are, interesting, historical, and educational. More so than young people complaining about things they still have time to change, if they just stop complaining and do something about it. Anyway... One woman who was mentally fine, took a turn downhill and passed on quite quickly for physical reasons. Her daughter came into the shop and opened up to me about her Mom's last days. She picked up on the fact I would understand and not criticize. She explained that her Mom kept talking to her Dad (Husband..who passed about one year earlier) and she told her daughter that her Dad was there with them , where he was standing and telling her to let go he was waiting for her. Soon after she watched her Mom peacefully and happily go to rest forever. The daughter said to me that she had not shared that with others, not even family, because she knew people would not understand but she felt very comfortable telling me!!! I really forgot about this or had not thought of it until now. I guess you all are the group of people, meant for me share this with. Our elders may be giving us the run around and we are chosen to struggle through it all, but maybe this is all because we are being taught and we should really listen. We may not understand fully what is being taught but I think we have a different understanding of love and life that most people will never understand.
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APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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I would highly recommend that you have your mother examined by a good neurologist and make sure that this individual is familiar with Lewy Body Dementia. Unfortunately, there is no test for LBD - a diagnosis is made by an examination of symptoms. Other symptoms can include excessive daytime sleepiness, sleep disturbances (including acting out vivid dreams), blank facial expression, balancing difficulties and shuffling gait, and loss of interest in hobbies, activities, etc. It is extremely important to get an accurate diagnosis because medications that can help people with Alzheimers or Parkinsons Diseases can have an extremely negative effect on people with LBD.
When I talked to her nurse and doctor about these behaviors they assured me that many dementia and Alzheimer's patients experience the same thing. They also caution me to keep her well hydrated. She is also checked for UTI's on a regular basis as this can cause hallucinations. So, if your mother is seeing more "odd" things than usual, please have her checked for a UTI. Left untreated, UTI's can prove fatal.
Good luck!
My Mom always see's her Dad sometimes her Mom. Since I have become my Mom's caregiver, I have been accomplishing things that I never thought I could and I believe someone has been guiding me and been giving me strength and opening my mind to do what I needed to protect my Mom.
Call me crazy but I should have fallen apart long ago!!! Now I am here trying helping others, so I can keep other's from falling apart, almost as if it has been my life's mission all along.
In Love and Light!
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