Hi Friends,
My mom is at an assisted living facility along with nine other people. There are two very old lady caregivers one over 70 years old the other over 65.
For the most part my mom needs very little care. But every now and then she gets dizzy or week and she will fall in the bathroom. Last time she laid on the floor for three hours calling for help and when the caregivers came of course they’re too old to help her or pick her up so they called 911 and off to the hospital she goes.
Tuesday of this week my mom who is very high anxiety felt sick started to panic and called 911 and told them she cannot breathe and off to the hospital she went and no one tells me. I don’t even know she’s at the hospital until the nurse calls me.
My question is what state agency regulates in-home assisted living care? I think her caregivers are too old to be caregivers they don’t tell me when my mom goes to the hospital and they don’t tell me if she’s having a problem with anything.
I have discussed my concerns with the owner via text but she never responds and when I try to discuss in person she just giggles and says she loves my mom. But truth, she loves the $3600 I give her every month.
I am looking for a new place to put my mother and in the meantime I want to report this facility to the state.
Somewhere in moms AL, should be very visible, is a wall of mandatory postings. This will have information about your rights and agencies that oversee them and how you can report them. Call the ombudsman and get them out to talk to mom, they will help her.
If you are paying anything from your own money for your mom you need to stop immediately. It is not fair that you are spending your retirement to prop her wishes up.
I am amazed that you haven't walked away and let her deal with her choices and consequences.
The owner does love a high paying, low level care individual. Greedy b tch.
I am not sure exactly how these situations are handled but I do want to offer support and say that I wish you the very best. Hugs to you and your mom.
But why doesn't your mother wear a falls alarm? Why isn't the facility equipped or the staff trained to deal with falls?
I think the owner might well respond with a straighter face if you put your concerns down in an email and tell her that it's going to the long-term care ombudsman next.
I would do this even if mom were not having a problem. 2 "caregivers" that can not help when necessary, can not either hear a call for help or ignore a call for help should not be working in this capacity.
I think you are wise to report the facility and I think you are wise to find another place for your mom.
Is there any way you can install cameras in your moms room so you can monitor what is going on and if there is a fall again (hopefully not) but you could call 911.
I might also contact the local fire department to see if they are aware that this facility is pretty much unsupervised.
by the way personal comment here but I am over 65 and would not consider myself as a very old lady caregiver but there is no way I would want to care for 10 people. I would not feel like I was doing a good job.
Good luck in your search for a new home for mom and I hope you find one soon it seems like a dangerous situation.
Grandma has given you some good advice here. Call the Ombudsman right away to inform him/her of the situation that exists in this ALF your mom is in. There needs to be a public notice inside the facility of the Ombudsman's name and phone number; if it isn't there, then that's an infraction as well.
You are wise to find your mother another ALF to live in. The smaller ones are not always the 'better' ones, either, as you are seeing. I suggest you look for privately owned ALFs and ask the residents AND the staff how they enjoy living/working there. That really tells you all you need to know right there.
Best of luck!!
I do agree, though, that 65 and 70 are a little up there to be Caregiving with dealing with the physical aspect. My GF and her sister retired at 60 because the work was getting too much.
These places are overseen by the state. I would start with the Ombudsman.
caulk the Omsbusman
If so, I would contact them as well.
Somebody else mentioned gait belts. Gait belts are passé and should never be used to yank somebody off the floor, as they have been associated with many abdominal injuries. (I'm an RN, by the way.)
I am curious as to why the woman lay on the floor for three hours. Does she live alone part of the time and the caregiver had not yet arrived? If this is the case, then it's fairly clear that it is no longer safe for the woman to live alone any longer, even for a few hours.
I don't know how long we've had this service where I live but presumably because the emergency services got so sick of helping elders off the floor or out of their bathtubs we now have a dedicated Falls Response team who roam the county and try to get to any call within the half hour. If an injury is obvious or suspected, then it's still an ambulance, of course; but if the person is perfectly happy only not able to use any technique to raise themselves (with appropriate support) then the falls team people come along with special inflatable cushions and kind of lever them upright. I believe they do have relevant paramedic training, but I'm not sure if they are fully-qualified paramedics. Still - they do a brilliant job :)
Completely agree - gait belts are to aid gait, not for use as block-and-tackle!
Take her OUT of there IMMEDIATELY.Report all the events to the department of aging and to BETTER BUSINESSES B...use all in YOUR POWER TO GET A PLACE for mom or get a Private aide that you can train to Mom's necessities. I'm a HHA SINCE 1980,s and that is unacceptable.YOUR MOM IS THE REASON why she is there.Care to the fullest.Money talks the rest can walk situation's?
Please take her out Immediately.please let us know how it all went.God bless amen.
Mom's MC if at capacity is 20 people. If two fall (tumble, slip down to floor, etc) every day, and then several in the AL upstairs fall every day, there wouldn't be enough paramedics to cover other emergencies!
Each fall should be assessed. When mom first moved in (she was the first MC resident when the rebuild was done), yup, she was transported to ER for several simple tumbles. That has since stopped. They check her over, monitor vitals for a few days and that is that. If they were to call 911 every time mom fell, I would get no peace! They do call me to report it, but it doesn't require me having to go pick her up at the ER!
"...My mom is at an assisted living facility..."
"...there should be a call button in the bathroom..." Mom's MC facility has these, HOWEVER, if she falls in her room and can't crawl her way to the bathroom, she can't push the button.
Additionally, they have put a lanyard with a call button ON mom - she has NO clue what it is, periodically will notice it and then push the button, not having a clue that she is calling the aides!!!
These idiots "working" at a place with only 10 residents should be checking on the residents EVERY 1/2 hour! That place should be closed for business (reporting fine, but clearly the "owner" is an idiot.)
Age is not the issue as others have said. Lazy, neglectful caregivers come in all ages, sizes, and colors.
I think you’ll be less than enthralled with younger workers. They are attached to their phones and have poor attendance, constant family drama, and transportation issues. I hope you find what you seek, yet again I implore you to look before you leap.
If it was my mom I would be extremely upset and file a complaint as soon as I've moved her out, especially in light of your former attempts to discuss the situation with the owner and her flippant, dismissive response (it makes *me* mad just reading what you wrote).
"I have discussed my concerns with the owner via text but she never responds and when I try to discuss in person she just giggles and says she loves my mom. But truth, she loves the $3600 I give her every month."
take note of the Names and start advocating for what you feel is right
All state facilities answer to somebody. That’s your responsibility to alert them to what’s going wrong and when things get ruff YOU get tuff and believe me you will feel much better that you spoke up don’t shrink back!
First and foremost, no one in a house with 2 caregivers and only 9 patients should lay in a floor for 3 hrs. You have to wonder why no one heard her call for help. On the other hand, did she really lay in the floor 3 hours. 65-70 years old does not mean they are not capable. I'm 65 and in very good health and can pick up my mom of 190 lbs while I only weigh 113 - so don't judge a book by its' cover. It's possible, though, that your mom requires more care than these two particular ladies can give. And yes, they may continue to say they can do it to get the money.
In the mean time, text her and be very specific in telling her you expect a phone call at ANY time of day or night that your mother has fallen, become ill, or if 911 has to be called. No delays, immediate notification. Also that you will be checking with licensed facility authorities to find out what must be reported, when, how quickly the family members will be notified, and their failure to respond to your questions. No facility, group home or otherwise, wants investigators nosing about.
Your mom may continue to do well in a licensed home, but perhaps one with fewer patients.
Llamalover47 (as in 1947).
I'll be there myself, soon enough...
Regarding assistance to and from the restroom and in general, she's a fall risk (if she wasn't previously, she's documented as such now, I'd bet), and she should either be monitored while moving about and/or assisted. Good point
Report the home to Medicare/Medicaid and your state's Joint Commission. Good luck.
1. Move your Mom to a better place.
2. Have documentation of any conversations and even better have written comunication with the owner of this agency. Use your info to take to the county Health and Human Services office Long Term Care folks. Also contact your state office of HHS and file your concerns. Also every state has a Board of Nurse Examiners that you can contact. I personaly do not think it is an issue of age as much as maybe a lack of caring. I think the owner hires people like herself.
3. All corispondance that you have with a government agency should be sent Return receipt so you can hold the government accountable.
You and your Mom are in my prayers. I would not be surprised if the owner of this home under pays and under trains her staff. All trainging should be followed. I do not knot the standard is to moving some one after they have fallen in one of these homes. I do know it is not asking any thing to call you and let you know what has happened at the time. Like others have said in this posting two care givers to ten people works out to five a person,. That is twelve menuits an hour to spend with some one and get to know them a little more. It is not so much checking up as it is being friendly.
The owner is who I would go after. Another idea is to contact your state reprasentative or senitor from your district working out of your state capital.
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