A couple of days she is almost normal... then she starts laying in the floor, soaking wet from urine. I keep trying to help her up, but she refuses. She becomes very mean and hurtful. I have no one to help and this has been going on for 5 years. She became worse after my father died. HELP!
If this is simply a matter of you have been doing this one on one care now for 5 years and you cannot go on then it is time to consult the doctors and have your elder placed in care. Covid times make that difficult right now, but it can be done, and most easily done from a hospital setting. This behavior is dramatic enough that an ambulance can be called for transport to hospital. Once in your community hospital ask to speak to a social worker and tell her you cannot safely continue to care for your mother in your own home. She can help with placement better and more quickly than you could do it on your own, and help you negotiate getting together her assets, and paperwork, and possibly applications for medicaid.
If you haven't already read up on the subject, I'd do that so you can keep an eye out for other signs and symptoms based on your mother's behaviors.
Go to Alzheimers.org for a great source of information and support. They even have an 800 phone number if you want to speak to a person about it.
Good luck!
thanks for the info.. I have been checking into hospice in home care, but they haven't called me back after 2 weeks...