My mom was having Parkinson's for 11 years and passed away on Oct 17th (last month). I was caring for her at home and she was in the advanced PD stage with some aspirations and bedridden, but was having small meals and some fluids. I had to go out of city with my family for 2 days so I left her at a reputed nursing home that is know take good care of the PD patients.
After the day I left her there and out of the city, I got a call from a nursing home doctor saying mom is having fever and they have started an antibiotic IV as fever is not getting down. I received a call next day early morning that she passed away due to Pneumonia. I was devastated and I cannot console my self thinking it all happened as I left her there and I could have cancelled my family thing. How could she die so soon within a day and I could not be at her side to say a goodbye?
May The Lord give you grieving mercies, comfort, strength and understanding during this difficult time.
As hard as this is, it really was a blessing that she went quickly. She is no longer suffering and I know from your words that she is watching over you, praying that you find joy and happiness for yourself. She did not want your last memory of her to be her dying.
You did a tough job well and she was all the better for your care of her.
Grieve her and remember the love you shared to be able to care for her for so many years. That is a beautiful legacy.
Warm hugs and prayers sent to you and for you and your family.
Maybe sometimes people need to be alone to let go.
I am so sorry for your loss. She is at peace now - I hope the good memories start to comfort you.
You didn’t cause this to happen. You weren’t neglectful. And, I must remind you, that you DID say goodbye when you left. Not the same kind of goodbye, but what could you have said that she didn’t already know?
Her body had simply worn itself out, and it was her time. One way or another, you’re going to have to make peace with that. After all, wouldn’t she want you to?
The fact that your mom passed when you weren't there was I believe just the way she and God wanted it to go down. She knew that you loved her, and took great care of her, so she didn't need to have you by her side when she left this world for the next. And no one ever dies alone. God/Jesus and loved ones who have gone on before us are there and waiting for us, so please take comfort in that.
I pray that God will give you His strength, peace and comfort in the days ahead, and that you will find comfort in knowing that she is at peace now. God bless you.