Mom is 87 and lives at home. She worries alot; especially the past. What ifs, shoulda, coulda, wouldas all the time. She does okay, then if she and I begin to discuss something that is upsetting to her, liking going to the doctor, she begins that uncontrollable mouth trembling, and words she is trying to speak, start to shake. Is anyone experiencing or have experienced anything like this?
My mother used to start her dry irritating cough bouts. Did she want a cup of tea? Yes please that would lovely. Why had she not used her walking frame? - cough cough cough cough cough...
I expect it's stress, actually. These poor ladies' brains are already under pressure, we add in a difficult emotion, presumably that's the trigger.
It is extremely trying. I do not know the answer, just sending hugs and sympathy.
PS With the doctor's appointments, I should go right ahead and make the appointment - if she wants to cancel it or she won't go then you can reschedule, but the chances are she'll go with the flow especially if you can keep everything calm and gentle and matter of fact.
My gosh, even I, myself, had the voice trembling due to the stress of helping my very elderly parents. Everyone could hear it in my voice.
The late great actress Katharine Hepburn had a voice trembling as she got older. My late Mom's voice started to sound like Katharine's once my Mom got into her 80's.
There are are psycotrophic meds which will cause tardive dyskinesia, uncontrolled body movements. They are usually permanent. Our mom is on one of these meds.
We treat our pets better than this.
And they make sure you don't ignore them. One woman I know has that hair scratching thing to make a bald spot so you will say that she should stop scratching her head. Oh my gosh, she gets so mad because I don't notice people's quirks. She points it out. I tell her that I don't notice things like quirks and she gets furious. So then she told me her hands were getting blue and I told her to call 911 or her daughter. I can't deal with hypochondriacs!