He is verbally abusive and self centered. Dad is 87, has dementia, congestive heart failure, ankloysing spondelitis amongst other maladies. When things don't go his way, he gets upset, makes smart aleck remarks to me. It's like a little kid throwing a tantrum, except he can't stamp his foot on the ground. He thinks I am here to serve him, not help with his daily life. He is nice as can be to nurses, doctors, my siblings, ( who do not help at all,) phony as all get out. He smarted off this morning right out the gate because he thinks I was making him go to the senior center (which he hates.) I just walked back to my room, away from the negativity. My caregiving would be so much easier mentally if he were not so negative, it is a mental hell. Does anybody else experience the Jekyll and Hyde personality???
Just try to hang in there. He's testing you. Maybe he's testing you more and more because you're too nice and tolerant?
Show authority.
I hope things are okay. It's very disheartening to be treated poorly when you're doing so much.
MD's will always tell them they are just fine. They buy in to reassurance, they think they won a round. It's called "showtiming" and it is very common.
The MD also sees you had to bring him and looks for signs of decline. So the MD says "you look great. I'll see you next month" Now if pops really was fine the MD would see him next YEAR. Read between the lines.