My mom is doing great in rehab PT at nursing home. She should be released any day. Only thing is I have felt like I have a life again with her there and me just visiting daily for about an hour. She can wait to come home and asks me everyday when does she gets to return home.
When she returns she's going to be downstairs in the dining room instead of upstairs in bed room. No more stair climbing because of 95 year old Afib heart.
She is a nice person a I Iove her dearly but I am worn out. I am 52 with an alcoholic husband and 3 kids ages 16, 13 and 9. Mom started living with us full time in 2007. Between making up for my husbands shortcomings and making my mom a priority. I feel my kids get the short end of the stick.
My mom is nearly deaf. Hasn't worn her hearing aids in years because her hearing got worse and she could no longer hear out of the. Shee still does not attempt getting new ones because she "knows" they wont work and doesn't feel she could afford "good" ones. Her deafness at my house was a blessing during my husbands rants but doesn't help her fit in socially at nursing home. She doesn't attend activities and takes all meals in her room.
How do I handle this situation?
You have done enough. Visit her often, but leave the hands-on care to professionals.