My mom is in her mid-70s and she has significant dementia. She is undergoing her second back surgery next week. It is my understanding that the anesthesia could likely worsen her dementia exponentially. Any input on what we might expect mentally, post op? I'm not her POA, my sister is, and she does not seem concerned about the dementia element. I'm trying to prepare myself for the inevitable.
Since the surgeries she was diagnosed with dementia. Something she did not have before. We are 10 yrs down the road now, she can not be left alone, she can not do anything that she did in her pre-surgery days. She was a fabulous seamstress, cook, Baker, Now everyday is a struggle with her. She can not follow directions, physical or verbal. She thinks nothing is wrong with her, only a little forgetful. So she tries to do everything she did before, which leads to a lot of frustration. Both for her and me! She lies to make herself look like it’s everyone else and not her problems. And she could be Oscar worthy for her “Showtime” performances. It has been a very tough 10 years. I moved in 5 yrs ago after my father passed so she wouldn’t have to move out of her home. My life is constantly following her around the house making sure she doesn’t do anything to harm herself, Yet she still wants to do everything she did many years ago. Make quilts, food for everyone, travel and anything else she can think of. If your mother has the surgery, make sure you have help. To take her on yourself, is literally a 24/7 job. 4 hours sleep a night is a luxury that does not happen often. Just prepare yourself if things go downhill. And from my perspective, the only way is downhill.
I wish you Luck. Stamina. Patience. And everything else good. And stay on this forum. It can literally be a lifeline for you.
I agree with the previous poster that many people with dementia have surgeries too. From my experience, my husband’s neurologist is always reluctant to advise anything that would negatively affect the mind, esp anesthesia. But how can one have surgery without it???
Please don't take the idea of dementia and sedation lightly. I'd also suggest you make sure, now, that you (or whomever is/will be her agent) have all the appropriate paperwork including your mom's POA and Powers of Health Care or living will. (At a recent visit with our attorney I found out that our state just created a new, stronger form of POA and it was recommended that we switch to it.)
I'm not sure what the answer is regarding surgery that isn't absolute essential. Get all the additional, informed and professional opinions available, I guess.....
On a related subject, throughout my mom's process I realized that it no longer makes a lot of sense for doctors, nurses, or rehab people to ask her to rate her pain level. She would tell me it was excruciating one minute and then when they asked her a short time later if she needed anything for pain she would say, "No, it's only about a 2." After about 3 days of that I asked the nursing staff at the rehab to just give her whatever was prescribed.
The anesthesia drugs used are Highly toxic, and put an added load on an already compromised system. Therefore her health should be as close to 'optimal' for someone in her age group as possible before surgery
I work in medicine, so can give you a few simple insights and suggestions
a. a full blood work up is standard procedure before any surgery. You are entitled by law to a copy of the test results. Carefully check
a. Haemoglobin (iron complex that carries oxygen to the cells of the body)
It should be a 'optimal' levels not 'acceptable'. Low hemoglobin &/or iron make
it very difficult for the body to heal/recover.
b. Liver test. The liver is an organ that is responsible for making all toxic substances in the body water soluble so they can then be eliminated
Enzyme levels for the liver should be relatively close to "ideal" before surgery
You can google for acceptable & ideal levels. And blood test result sheets are easy to read (believe it or not :)
If results of the above are low I highly recommend you have the surgery delayed and work on building up your Mothers health until the results Are ideal
Waiting a month (or two) will not add to her health problems, however doing surgery while her health is suboptimal Will most defiantly add to her rapid decline
Also, Turmeric Power is a powerful pain reliever...and very beneficial in those with dementia. It is more powerful pain relief than any of the pain relief and anti inflammatory drugs (other than narcotics eg percodan, morphia, vicodin's etc)
So giving your Mother Tumeric 3 times daily before her meals will
a. relieve the pain from her back markedly
b. improve her mental clarity ie. reduce the dementia
Do not give her capsules with added pepper (black or white) or standardized etc
Just the plain organic turmeric powder....a wholesome food...the way it comes from the earth
Mix 1tspn with 1/4 Cup of warm distilled water
1teaspoon raw honey
2Tblspns plain full fat yogurt (goats is best yoghurt)
This will not interfere with any of the medications she is currently on. Has no side effects, and many side benefits
There are numbers of medical studies on the 'pain relieving and anti inflammatory benefits of tumeric". "the benefits of turmeric for people suffering dementia"
I have a grandfather with dementia and large helpings of denial. Some days he can't wash a cup in the sink or remember how to stack plates in the cupboard.
And is very mean, irrational and critical to & of me. Sometimes I tell him I am not going to spend time with him anymore he's so irrational and spiteful
Its very painful. I have cried, begged, screamed, slammed doors...the whole gamut
On the days he takes the tumeric as described above (I also add 1tspn of Moringa for him) he loses the dull grey blanket like effect in his face and brain and is bright, vivacious , and my grandfather & friend again
I have no doubt if he did this daily he would be stable. But unfortunately he doesn't . However, I am grateful that I have the knowledge and herbs to help him
Do the research and trust yourself. And remember the drug companies own sites like webmd.com and drugs.com So look further afield. The NIH ..national institute of health have impartial (not paid for by drug companies) studies that worth reading. Do not expect your surgeon to concur.
Last point: You may be warned the tumeric interacts with blood thinner medicine and can cause problems. It does not in my clinical experience, and that of a number of other medical professionals I know
Good luck on your journey
Your Mother is fortunate to have such a caring daughter
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