I mean we are the ones going through soooo much taking care of them. Do they even know that death is near or even what death is in their last stages? I think to myself that maybe it isn't so bad for them when they completely forget because they become like children again not knowing if people has hurt them or done wrong to them. They become innocent again. Am I just wrong for feeling this way because my siblings have not even seen my mom in over a year and now she has forgotten them and the fact that they haven't come so it doesn't hurt her no more. Which makes me happy, I mean seeing her miss her children was killing me and now she's just so innocent to everything. She is just coasting through life with no sadness and when things happen she has no clue how to feel. Any thoughts????
But there is a innocence in them that really makes you want to protect them.
Mom would get so agitated when people came over..I eventually kept people from visiting just to spare mom and everyone around her from the drama.
It's really tough to call it because the times when she would wake up scared and confused...it was so frustrating. I loved my mom so much and I hate that she had to go this way. But I know from my perspective it was agonizing. God bless you.
I feel being a caregiver is the harder of the two. It's emotionally draining to see the person you love dwindle away and because of the physical, hands on activities, you can't always spend time with them learning to let go.
Here is the thread. When I first read this last year, the patient was named Menohardy. What we didn't know at the time was that his daughter found this site, and signed him on. Therefore, when you read his post, sometimes it's him and sometimes it's the daughter. After his death, she changed the name from Menohardy to Social1.
https://www.agingcare.com/questions/Expect-elder-to-help-with-chores-147757.htm?cpage=14