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My MIL is 89 and has dementia along with many many other illnesses. Some days we don't think she will make it. Other days she is her strong-willed self. A lot of other complications but just wondering if getting guardianship is worth it.

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There may be some circumstances that you would need guardianship, but so far I have not encountered it. I have Durable Power of Attorney and Health Care Poser of Attorney and haven't run into any problems.

If you need to deal with Social Security on her behalf, you'll have to get that done in writing with their office, but other than that, I have made decisions for my loved one and she's rather oblivious to it. She may be in the room when decisions are made, but she doesn't recall it 5 minutes later.

. She has rather significant dementia and though she may be strong willed, she is not able to conduct any business as she is in a Memory Care facility. Normally, if you approach things in a positive way, they will cooperate with you. At tleast that's been my experience. When it's time to go to the doctor, she is told it's time to get ready and get into the car.

For what reason do you believe you need guardianship for an 89 year old family member with dementia and other illnesses?
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If mom is going to need a nursing home and will refuse to go, only a Guardian can sign her in against her will. It takes months to get Guardianship, so it needs to be done well ahead of need.
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Sunnygirl1- because of the other complications. She is married to a man who lives out of state and he keeps showing up - says he wants to take her out of state away from all her doctors. He would just put her in a nursing facility. He is not all there mentally or physically and is 87. I guess I just needed to vent. We are going for it.
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Pam - we are trying to keep her in her home. She does not want to go in a facility. Here in AZ, the doctor can sign her in to a facility. We want her here with her doctors, friends and family.
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Oh, I see. If she has a husband who is against what you want to do, then I would go for the guardianship. Normally, you have to notify other family members in writing and give them notice of the hearing. So, her husband would be notified. Would he show up and contest? Would he say he wants to be the guardian? I'd speak with an attorney about it.
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