My wife, who has dementia, has been pronounced housebound by her doctor. I am her caregiver at home. She refuses to take her pills in the morning in accordance with her care plan which calls for pills five times a day. She refuses to swallow them and spits them out. Would Medicare pay for a nurse to come to our home to administer the pills each morning?
You might be eligible for some help from the community. I think at our county's Agency on Aging (in Mich.) it is 10 hours a week max and they usually want to schedule visits in 2 or 3 hour blocks; also sometimes it is difficult to get them to come early in the day, but that probably depends on what agencies your county uses.
I feel so bad for you; this has been a long road. It is really difficult to do the work of caregiving alone. Do you have any caregivers helping you? It sounded like you have adult children; could any of them help you look up resources in your area or call some home health care agencies? That is something they could do from out of town if they don't live nearby.
I am so sorry your wife has had this change. It is a lot to take in, and when you are that busy caring for someone, it doesn't leave a lot of time to work through the emotional part of it. I hope you can find some outside help soon. You need to get some sleep yourself and have time to catch up from the past several months!