My brother is now in charge and is the main one abusive to her. For years has treated mom like this, and now has girlfriend of 6 months there when he does this to her. Mom says girlfriend sits there smiling while him, other brother and his wife do the same to mom. Making it look like myself and my son were always the bad ones. WRONG. They are trying to keep us away from mom and will do anything to keep others away from mom also. Mom is to scared to say anything, but mom will talk about missing us most of all and then gets screamed at from them. Sister in law and girlfriend telling mom what to do and when to do it. They should not be allowed around mom as mom has never liked daughter in law and says she does not like sons girlfriend. Should police do the right thing and put in a camera, I think they should if requested for mom's safety.
You need to find out one way or another what is really going on.
If you are certain that there is actually verbal and/or physical abuse occuring, then you need to get this information to mom's doctors and to Adult Protective Services. And your mother should almost certainly be in a facility. Has the family looked into that?
If you cannot put a camera in the house maybe you could just record mom's calls to you. If she expresses fear or abuse then you would have some evidence that she needs help. You would need moms permission to record her but it sounds like that would be simple. Just say 'hey, mom, I'm recording your call, ok?" (might even say something like " so I can remember what you said". (there are laws regarding recording people without permission so I'd check your state laws to see what it says)
Just my thoughts. Hope it helps.
Janet
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