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My mother was diagnosed with dementia in June of 2020 after having severe hallucinations and calling the police. We packed up her house and moved her in with us but after 4 months the situation was unbearable. She saw us (our family of 5) all here day in and day out (because of Covid) and convinced herself we were all unemployed and living off her $1600 social security check. According to my Mom we were all stealing her money and trying to steal her house. She accused her grandsons (who I know she loves dearly) of stealing her snacks. Everyday she wanted to check her bank balance and get the number for elder abuse. The breaking point was when she was convinced my husband was out to get her and she hid a knife in the dresser drawer just in case. On the day of the move to the memory care facility we had to call the police because she refused to go. They were great and convinced her that indeed she could probably go back home after they checked her out at the Memory Care facility. She's been there 6 months and now her level of care is changing. Soon the cost will be 8K per month. We have found a board care home that we'd like to move her to but everyone is too afraid to be the person to pick her up and move her. I'd love to hire a nurse or caregiver who can drive her to the new place. I can follow behind and be there when she moves in.
Can anyone recommend a service like this?

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Thank you. I will look into that.
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You can hire a medical transport company to move her.
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oski4ever Feb 2021
Thank you
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If you are worried about even transporting her, is a board and care home really an appropriate type of facility for her care? As I've researched what this option is, it seems a good fit for people transitioning from AL to LTC, not from MC. Have you consulted with an elder law attorney to see if she would qualify for Medicaid and if so, when? Have you talked to her doctor about meds to control her hallucinations? I wish you all the best.
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oski4ever Feb 2021
Thank you. I really appreciate any help or direction. Yes she has medicaid. She is on Risperidone for the hallucinations. They are now increasing and she is seeing small children in the room and she is now refusing to shower. Without every change there's an increase in fees; $250 for an additional pill, $500 more for helping her to shower, etc.
On the other hand she is still able to text and ask me for snacks and ask me to go home.
How would medicaid help?
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