He has details and he did not say anything until he got home for fear. My Father got raped in a NH. He got home yesterday. He was there for 3 weeks sent there by the hospital after a sepsis. He has Parkinson's. Anyway, the guy who repeatedly raped him told him he was going to kill him if he told anyone. So Dad was afraid to tell anyone till he got home. He said he picked him because he could not scream. Because when you have Parkinson's you can only whisper. So he told in great detail what happened to him. And we are sure he is telling us the truth. But he is so weak that we don't want to tell the police. There is no evidence because Dad said "he" always cleaned me up afterwards.
I know this would not shock anyone who has heard about senior abuse in nursing homes. But this is my father and I am not sure how to proceed. I don't think they will believe him because sometimes he says things that are Parkinson's related dementia.
Go see the police, whoever handles sex crimes, explain the situation, ask their advice. You don't have to involve your father. This man must be stopped. Even if they cant prosecute; they will investigate the man, and how this could happen in a nursing home. They can put cameras, and catch him in the act.
Do get him to a doctor to have his bottom checked, and ask them to treat it as a possible rape. At the very least, if he has an injury, that should be treated.
What a horrible situation for both of you! God bless you and your father.
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